I mod for two different aro/ace blogs and I’ve seen so many asks from aspec people who are in some deeply unhealthy friendships at this point that I think it’s really time to make a post about it.
Your friends should not mock or belittle your sexual and/or romantic orientations. Your identity is an important part of who you are and an actual friend would know that. People who mock your identity aren’t your friends, they’re bullies.
Your friends should recognize and respect your boundaries. You’re touch averse and your friends keep touching you even though you’ve asked them not to on multiple occasions? Sex jokes make you uncomfortable and you’ve asked your friends to not make them around you, but they refuse to? You’re romance repulsed and have explained to your friend that hearing about their relationships all the time is bad for your mental health but they still won’t stop? Then those people aren’t respecting your boundaries and you either need to have a serious talk with them until they figure it out or you need to stop being their friend.
This can be hard to hear but it needs to be said. Don’t let your friends mistreat you just because you’re aspec. You deserve so much better and I promise there are better people out there.
i need to learn how to aplogize better. I don't mean "sorry i'm a little shit"
I mean deep from the heart, explaining what I did was wrong and hurtful to you, to them, and that it was horrible to do so
i wish i can apologize for everything i've done, because i never learned how to
day to myself before the rain comes in again. it's breezy outside, hinting that the storm is coming through soon.
I'm partway through the second book of Game of Thrones!!!
when you fuck up so much, there's no taking it back
and sometimes, an apology just won't ever be enough, no matter how big you make it to be
friends are fun
Sex-repulsed aces are not to blame for other people misunderstanding asexuality, even if your asexuality is tied to your sex-repulsion. You all are great and deserve to have your boundaries respected. Society puts a lot of emphasis on certain actions to be considered “real” relationships, but these are not true. Your health, safety, and comfort should come first.
[ID: Four graphics with the aromantic pride flag. The graphic reads, in order: You matter, you are not broken, you are loved and you are worth so much. End ID]
i love the (proper) representation that LGBT characters get and it's super great and all but sometimes, I kinda want representation for nonbinary and aro/ace/demo/poly people too, because we exist too
my personal blog. i have vent tags #thinking too much on an early night
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